I felt a strange amount of attraction towards candles today, not really knowing why… until right now after I’ve turned off my lights and noticed how much of the room my candle still lit up.
It reminds me of the evening SD blacked out, and we had to do everything by candlelight: attempt to heat canned corn for dinner, shower, watch Phantom of the Opera on whatever battery life my laptop had left… such simple times. Such fond memories that never fail to put a smile on my face.
Sometimes breaking up is the right thing to do….and other times it’s a mistake. Here’s how to tell if you should get back together:
1. You miss them. This is a pretty straightforward sign that maybe you were wrong to break up. It’s natural to miss anyone that isn’t in your life anymore, but sometimes you miss them so much that you know that you want them back.
2. You’re both available. If neither one of you have moved on after breaking up, maybe there’s a reason why. If either of you really wanted to be with other people then why are you still single? Maybe you’re keeping yourself available in hopes that you’ll get back together.
3. You still have positive feelings. If you don’t hate your ex or have feelings of bitterness or hurt, but instead have lots of positive memories, maybe you shouldn’t have broken up. When you think of them, if you think of only positive things then it could be a sign that there are still good things to come from your relationship.
I miss having someone to spill my thoughts on to. Someone I know will care about those thoughts and not have to worry about judging me. Someone I can let go of all insecurities and be myself around. Who will open up to me just as much as I open up to them. That’s the one thing I miss about those times: the comfort and security of knowing that such people exist for me, just as I did for them.
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!
Marina Abramović, “Rhythm 0,” 1974
Marina Abramović is best known for her performance pieces, in which she tries to explore what is possible for an artist to do in the name of art. Her best known piece was the recent “The Artist Is Present,” in which she sat motionless for 736.5 hours over the course of three months, inviting visitors to sit opposite her and make eye contact for as long as they wanted. So many people began spontaneously crying across from her that blogs and Facebook groups were set up for those people.
Her bravest piece, however, is my favorite. This piece was primarily a trust exercise, in which she told viewers she would not move for six hours no matter what they did to her. She placed 72 objects one could use in pleasing or destructive ways, ranging from flowers and a feather boa to a knife and a loaded pistol, on a table near her and invited the viewers to use them on her however they wanted.
Initially, Abramović said, viewers were peaceful and timid, but it escalated to violence quickly. “The experience I learned was that … if you leave decision to the public, you can be killed… I felt really violated: they cut my clothes, stuck rose thorns in my stomach, one person aimed the gun at my head, and another took it away. It created an aggressive atmosphere. After exactly 6 hours, as planned, I stood up and started walking toward the public. Everyone ran away, escaping an actual confrontation.”
This piece revealed something terrible about humanity, similar to what Philip Zimbardo’s Stanford Prison Experiment or Stanley Milgram’s Obedience Experiment, both of which also proved how readily people will harm one another under unusual circumstances.
This performance showed just how easy it is to dehumanize a person who doesn’t fight back, and is particularly powerful because it defies what we think we know about ourselves. I’m certain the no one reading this believes the people around him/her capable of doing such things to another human being, but this performance proves otherwise.
I don’t understand why people shuffle their feet when they walk. The cons greatly outweigh the pros here.
- It wears out the soles of your shoes exponentially quicker.
- Everyone can hear you shuffling your way over.
- It makes you look like you have no confidence in your step, so you look like you suffer from low self-esteem.
- Everyone can hear you shuffling your way over, so I guess you won’t scare whoever you’re approaching?? My housemate brought this up. But instead of sacrificing my shoes for the fact that you get scared easily, I’d rather meow my way over to make my presence known.
Either way, it’s kinda annoying, idk why people still do it even though they are completely aware of it. I do recognize that this habit stems from how one was raised though. If I ever get to the sad point where I need to raise kids in order to feel satisfied with my life, I’d tell them to pick up their feet. I’m pretty sure my parents taught me that as well. Just imagining myself dragging my feet as I walk makes me cringe at the thought of how damaging it is to my shoes and self-image.